With so many options, choosing a mindset practitioner to help you raise the bar and improve your life can be overwhelming. From Psychologists to Counsellors; Life Coaches to Mentors; Kinesiologists to Hypnotherapists, how on earth do you choose?
My advice? Worry less about the practitioners “title” and more about the practitioner themselves. Here are my top 10, non-negotiable qualities that I believe each mindset practitioner must have. (Note: this is my own personal opinion and like all good things in life, most of the tips are not something you'd find in a typical "textbook" article)
1) They will never treat you like a victim, even when you see yourself as one
I get it, sh*t happens in life. But when you're paying a practitioner to help you, the last thing you want is someone who is going to keep you feeling like you are a victim of your own circumstances. A good practitioner will take a balanced approach and show you why it is so important for you to experience each event in your life and what you gained from it, rather than what you lost. Instead of making you feel weak, sad or victimised, they should work with you to help you feel empowered, strong and certain that you can handle anything that comes your way.
2) They’re a real human being and aren’t afraid to tell you this
A good practitioner should never lead you to think that they "have it all together", because in reality, we're all constantly working through our own stuff. Therefore, I recommend finding someone who is willing to tell you stories from their own life and share how they've been able to overcome some of the challenges you may also be experiencing.
3) They will make you think differently about life and the universe we live in
A fantastic practitioner will always stretch your mind, offer a new perspective and give you practical new ways of thinking that you can apply to your life right away. They will make you question the norm, question most things you think you "should be feeling and doing" and as a result help you construct a whole new reality that revolves around, well, you.
4) Their certainty about you will outweigh your own
When they look at you, they already see you 5 years down the road and all that you've been able to accomplish. Their certainty in your ability to make your dreams a reality outweighs your own, which equally terrifies you, yet gives you permission to start seeing yourself as the incredible human being that you are. They also give you permission to dream big, as in, change-the-world big and never allow you to minimise yourself and what you have to offer.
5) They've overcome their own money blocks
This is really important. If you're going to any kind of mindset practitioner with help around building a business or overcoming money blocks and bringing more wealth in your life, its imperative that you only work with someone who has taken the steps to overcome their own individual money blocks (otherwise, it's a bit like the blind leading the blind, isn't it?). This will be quickly evident in the way they run their business and their overall lingo around "what's possible" when it comes to money.
6) They will keep you accountable along your journey
This is simple. They check-in with you to make sure you're staying on track. On the contrary, they celebrate your wins with you and love to see you succeed.
7) They will only work with you if you're willing to put in the work outside of your appointments
If you're not willing to make changes or are looking for a magic "quick-fix" and someone tells you that it's still possible to get results, then I'd be very suspicious. A good practitioner, who values his/her own self-worth and time, will only agree to work with clients that are willing to do the work on themselves.
8) They're one of a kind (and they own it)!
Every single practitioner will bring something different to the table. A combination of their education, both from school and life experiences, will make them extremely unique and valuable. A great practitioner will be able to acknowledge what sets them apart and why their clients get awesome results with them in particular.
9) They will educate you and empower you to be self-sufficient
I believe the best mindset practitioners are those who equip you with high-quality, life-changing knowledge that you'll be able to use for the rest of your life. The greatest mindset experts will shake your world so that you'll remember their words and wisdom they were able to offer, even years into the future.
10) They have their own big dreams
As Dr. John Demartini says, "Surround yourself with people that inspire and uplift you. People who think big allow you to expand. You cannot put your hand into a pot of glue without some of it sticking, and likewise, you cannot interact with inspired people without some of that rubbing off on you." #enoughsaid
When it's all said and done, remember that you never have to choose only one practitioner to guide you along your journey. Seeing a number of practitioners that practice different modalities means they'll use different approaches with you that will fulfil your different needs. After all, variety is the spice of life.
What else do you look for in a mindset practitioner? I'd love to know, so leave a comment below to add to the list!